Thank god for my dear friend Kristen - she talked me off the ledge, set me straight about how to handle the latest situation in my life.
Men. And their complete lack of sensitivity. Vince's friend Mike is always here. He snuck up on me this past Saturday morning as I decended the stairs in my tee shirt, ready to put on a pot of coffee. There he was - passed out on our hideous brown sofa. I turned around and proceeded to don a pair of yoga pants before I went downstairs again.
Later that day, Vince called me from the Acme. He was picking up the food for our New Year's party. Mike (aka Dilbert) weaseled his way into our New Year's party with another couple we'd invited over - my good friend Melissa from SJU and her husband. Two friends we hadn't seen since the summer since they live in WI. Suddenly Mike was dining with us. What the F? I was bitching as I heard Vince go through the checkout. Suddenly the line went dead. Uh huh.
Now I've ranted and raved for 2 days to anyone who would listen about how Mike is always here, he imposes, overstays his welcome, and basically NEEDS TO GO. I had all sorts of super sly tricks up my sleeve to drive him away (since previous discussions with Vince yielded nothing). I even pondered, seriously, if Mike was gay and secretly in love with my fiance??
Thankfully Kristen pointed out a similar situation she'd encountered with her now fiance. My sly menouvers, while funny, would probably backfire. The route of all this is Vince, enabling his friend to not have a life and depend on him way too much. Or vice versa. Best to smack Vince.
Which is what I just did. I was pretty calm. We realized Vince does enable Mike to hang here way too often and part of it is him being a computer geek and needing/wanting his other computer geek friends to be around. Part of it is Mike enabling Vince to sit around all Saturday and play stupid games. So now we have this deal - I am going to tell Vince when Mike needs to skate, no beating around the bush. Vince is going to try to be more sensative to the whole hanging out all the time issue with his friend. We'll both try to do more together things (sans Mike).
You know? This is great and all, but this blog would have rocked had it been my original rant. It was actually way more me. Chalk one up to communication.