Just found myself saying to my cousin the very words I heard the other day..."You know more about yourself at 24/25 than I did...you will be fine...try not to be so hard on yourself." Because I knew how I was then. I saw myself in her, in that moment. Young and overwhelmed.
So for all the "you're young" comments I hear, they must have heard them too...for all the stress I put on myself and unloaded, they were there too. More than there...they see themselves in me.
I've taken some of those comments as condescending, a little mockery, like they don't take me seriously, like I'm always a baby despite all my efforts to look otherwise. But maybe that's not really it...
And maybe the only words to say are those because really, I wouldn't have been able to handle, to live, anything more than that at 24/25. Or now at 34. Even now, I think of what I might have told myself then and if it could have mattered. All I come up with is exactly what was said to me. I would not have believed or listened to anything else because I had to figure stuff out on my own.
It's an amazing moment realizing someone sees him/herself in you.
"You will be fine."